How Desire results in Ill Will and Suffering
There are a lot of consequences to having desire. The greater the desire – the heavier the consequences. Desire always results in disappointment (whether you get the desired thing or not), therefore resulting in anger and ill-will towards oneself or others, so having desire is bad, but most Dharma practitioners probably already know that. But how does it all happen and how does it come together?
Often, when we have desire, but do not get what we wanted, we would become disappointed. What happens if we do get what we want? Our mind will become disappointed anyway and will start wanting the next thing. Expectations are rooted in desires. Because ‘expect’ and ‘want’ are essentially the same, when something goes not how we wanted it to go or when we do not get something that we wanted or expected for, we would be upset and disappointed.
How does ill will come into the picture? Ill will is a result of anger. Our mind, especially if untrained, is prone to tantrums – just like a spoiled child, it will begin screaming and kicking for more. If someone is disappointed, they are likely to blame themselves, a random person or someone who they think is at fault. Also, anger and ill-will can hurt and cause a lot of damage to a person who experienced desire, disappointment and anger in the first place, causing a lot of suffering.
Therefore, the most important fact to understand would be that desire causes suffering. It is most important to understand that the suffering begins the moment your mind becomes excited with desire. The most treasured state of mind to be in is Peaceful Mind. When one desires, he puts pressure on himself and jeopardizes his own Peace of Mind. Please remember this when the next desire arises: your Peace is much more precious to you than desire.
Daniel Tsimbler (13 y.o.)